Friends come and go. Sure, there is a saying that true friends are the ones who never leave, but what kind of testament is that to friendship? Just because someone has gradually disappeared from your life does not negate the friendship you had at the time. It doesn't mean they don't care any less, nor that you don't have a place in their heart...It just means that things have changed and perhaps it is time to pass on the kindness to someone else in need.
I heard a saying the other day that you can judge a good man by counting the friends he has. The more friends, the more people touched in a positive way I suppose. I don't know why people want to limit themselves to having a 'bestie' or 'BFF'.
I think about my friends all the time. I know that it isn't the same as calling them, but sometimes calling them is hard. Sometimes I just don't know what to say.
'Hey, heard you're having a rough time, well...I'm thinking of you!'
How can I do that when I may not have called the person when times were good?
This is where I think social networking sites have made it too easy. I can let people know I am thinking of them without having to think of the right words to say. A simple 'hug' or 'poke' or even a status update that only the person it is aimed at will understand.
Still, I don't cope well when friends fall away. I wonder what I did, what I said - what I didn't say. I wasn't there for them, too busy with my own mundane existence to let them know that my silence was not uncaring...
Everything changes. People change. The times have changed. They always will. I guess we ought to make the most of what and who we have in each moment.
I definitely know what you mean, I often question why friends fall away. And I tend to try to hold on to something when it's not there anymore.
ReplyDeleteIt's really difficult, this friendship thing.
I once had a friend say 'I have worked out who I want to be friends with, and you're not one of them'. That hurt.
ReplyDeleteBut I think the worst is when someone just stops talking to you - like doesn't reply to emails or calls or texts, and gets someone to say they're out when you call. I've known a few people who've done that to me :(
I've had similar recently, comments deleted as if I never replied.
ReplyDeleteI'm terrible at keeping in touch with people. But it is two way I guess. I'd never intentionally ignore someone - I'd usually find the nicest way to let them know I don't want them texting me, lol
i could never tell someone who has kind intentions to stop contacting me. i have told someone not to after he treated me badly, and i was proud for it.
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